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ISSUE 7 

THE SUN-DRY APRIL 2008

AA POSITIONS OPEN: PUBLIC INFORMATION COMMITTEE

El Paso AA needs a Chairperson for our Public Information Committee. We are also looking for persons to assist in informing the public about AA.  Both positions come with flexible hours and great payback to the soul for sound service work. 

Like all of A.A., the primary purpose of members involved in public information service is to carry the A.A. message to the alcoholic who still suffers by talking about what A.A. is and what we do. They give talks, respond to public inquiries at health fairs, churches, businesses, and attend other community events. Additionally, the public information committee cooperates with the professional community.  This committee is also responsible for sending people out to share their stories.

Participation as chair or a committee member offers tremendous opportunities to do Service Work. This is an excellent way to carry the message to the alcoholic who still suffers. That’s good for the Public and good for the service worker’s soul. 

If you’re interested or know someone who might also be perfect for these positions, please contact Kim at 562-4081 during business hours or Bob at 449-4788 after hours.

Sponsorship and trying to explain “Hitting Bottom”

 Unfortunately there is no easy "pat on the back your doing fine" approach.  Any twelve step program is tough...you pretty much have to accept that you are going to have to hit your bottom.

 I’ve have heard it said that “you hit your bottom when you see yourself as others see you.”  Better yet  

 “you hit your bottom when your worst nightmares do come true”

 The first step says that we have to admit we are powerless...not that we are kind of confused; or things are ok and will work themselves out...or "I know what works for me and no one else understands," but that we are in fact confronted with an emotional or mental addiction that is stronger than when we are able to say no..

 And that varies for each of us; from the drunk under the freeway, to the addict sleeping on a sidewalk in the snow; or to someone who is a corporate board president whose wife is going to leave him with the kids. Then there’s the average "Joe" who realizes that in order to get better he has to come clean about his own faults and recognize his weaknesses first.  We have to start all over like a little kid who learns the rules again and is able to accept them...and are on the path to once again being happy and free.  Remember hitting bottom is when you stop digging.

 Why do you think that you hear a lot of laughing in AA meetings?  It’s because those folks have figured it out.  They have taken back their lives from an addiction that was killing them, destroying or wrecking those around them.  That’s Step One...”and only you can admit that”....I can help you see and find a way out...that YOU NEVER HAVE TO DRINK OR USE AGAIN...FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE....but that entails giving in to what you know is correct....Sure it takes you down; sure it makes you depressed; sure it pisses you off.  It really pissed me off to no end and I hated everyone affiliated with my recovery, whether it was a sponsor, a counselor or my own wife.  But those feelings do eventually go away.  They really will go away, and you will look back and not believe how you could actually have thought those things and now live the way that you do.

Ken G., El Paso TX

What does it mean to be SOBER?

There’s a big difference between being dry and being sober. I can stop drinking, keep the substances out of my body, but that doesn’t take the alcoholism out of my brain. I’m still “like a tornado roaring [my] way through the lives of others.”  For me, for today, not drinking is just not enough.

So what is sobriety? What does it take to be more than just a dry drunk? It takes recovery on three levels: physical, emotional and spiritual.

Physical sobriety is simple enough: just don’t take that drink. Some of us can stay dry for long periods of time, fooling ourselves that it’s enough just not to drink one day at a time. But the Big Book tells us that, without further action, the day will inevitably come when we have no defense against that first drink.

That’s where spiritual sobriety comes in, giving us the faith that we need to stay sober one day at a time. Reliance on a power greater than ourselves rather than reliance on our own self-will is absolutely necessary.

So here I am, not drinking and relying on HP to keep me that way. Is that enough? What about the hostile way I talk to my spouse and children? What about the obsessive way I project into the future? What about the fears that paralyze me, that keep me from living my life? Is that sober living? I think not.

Working the steps as a newcomer is often just about surviving that first year of sobriety. We begin to clean up the wreckage of the past and start to build a foundation for a happier and healthier future. But then what? Staying sober for a lifetime requires action and more action…and more action.

Sobriety means looking at myself first. It means working a vigorous program in all areas of my life. I may be abstaining from alcohol, but am I acting out in some other way? I need to be willing to look at whatever I am doing that keeps me from the sunlight of the spirit, whatever I am using to just survive instead of really live. Sometimes that’s another substance, but sometimes it’s a behavior that keeps me angry, afraid and alone.

Having a home group, a sponsor and friends willing to call me on my stuff keeps me sober today. For me, for today, it’s not enough just not to take a drink. For me, for today, that’s just the first step. I have a lifetime of action ahead of me if I want to stay sober one day at a time.

JOURNAL QUESTION!

Take a few minutes this week to write an answer to the following question. Send it in by email and you just might see your response in the next issue !

 If I could travel back in time to visit myself as a newcomer, what piece of advice would I give myself? Would I have listened?

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